A wonderful client said today: if you want to use what we have been talking about today, so please do so. So that’s what I intend to do.

For example, we talked about ”mirroring” which I intend to take up. If  I, for example, often get very irritated at people who are authoritarian, then I should wonder for what reason that might be. In this case, it refers to a special person as my client (we’ll call her Lena) feels a very strong irritation for (Lena feels so basically for anyone who is very authoritarian). She can feel really bad about the way the woman usually behave.

When one ”reflects” in someone’s way of being, as one dislikes, it can often be the case that you yourself has got that behavior more or less. When I brought this up to Lena, I watched her body language changed, she said that it really was not the case with her. Lena was certainly not self-authoritarian, she thought.She said that she did not like the other woman’s way of being. But when she had been thinking for a while,she acknowledged that she could be a bit authoritarian, and she did not like that way, she wanted to be more humble. But when she reflected on this woman, she saw that she was the same (but she did not understood that straight away) but she was not perhaps as bad as the other woman used to be.

Now, it is of course possible that people you get very irritated on, may behave very badly and that’s why you react with irritation. But, think about what the reason might be, especially if it happens often. In Lena’s case, it was her uncle that had been very authoritarian towards her when she was little and she was very afraid of him. This may be why she feels as she does to those who are authoritarian and so perhaps, she might be a little authoritarian her self ☺.

I wish you a wonderful day!

Jeanette